Questions, questions, and more.....questions....

And then it felt like we were in couples counseling (not that it is a bad thing). Our first appointment with the social worker was with the two of us, and Debby, our social worker. She really needed to make sure that we were both on board with adoption. Apparently, far too often the woman wants to move forward, and the man is going along for the ride. That clearly isn't the case for us. Doug is so excited, and Debby definitely saw this in him. Heck, he already painted our child's room, and made sure the new carpet was put down while I was traveling. He even snuck in a stuffed animal he had purchased for him/her. Later, Doug met with Debby solo, and then it was my turn. She asked about our parents, their relationship, our relationship with them, with each other, and with our siblings. She dug a little deeper than I ever would have thought, and understand why it was so important. We had to choose guardians for the homestudy report. Thanks Brian and Meg for agreeing to be legal guardians. Doug and I went back and forth between one child, or siblings. I spoke to several families on the phone, all of whom brought home 2 children (siblings from Ethiopia). The families would never have it any other way, so we started to think about siblings too. But, at the end of the day, while I am working, traveling, and working some more, Doug will be taking care of, feeding, bathing and putting our child to bed. I would have been happy either way, and together we decided to adopt one child, either gender, between 0 and 36 months of age.